Damn season
Sep. 19th, 2006 09:44 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
vaneramosMy short story that was webcast on 1001 Nights Cast earlier today can be read here: Half Men.
Suddenly I am struggling to get things done. During check-in at a volunteer meeting at OOTS on Sunday I mentioned that the weather had been getting to me recently—really getting to me. I have felt unmotivated, grumpy and lonely.
A friend came over afterwards and said he had felt the same. So it isn't just me. We are both subject to Seasonal Affective Disorder. No, no, no, I don't want this to be SAD; it takes away the vitality I need now. I said lifestyle changes have helped—last year went so much better than previous ones—but he said last year was a good year, so much fair weather lasting long into autumn. This year apparently isn't. I must anticipate a long hard October and November, my worst months, and they've started early. I must be rigorous about the things I can control: turning on the fluorescent fixture behind my monitor every morning, getting outdoors as much as possible, exercising. Hopefully my improved sleeping habits will help. The extraordinary energy and optimism I felt until a week ago is gone. I am off balance.
The calendar still helps. It doesn't feel as friendly. I'm not accomplishing everything I've planned. But it helps me stay present and focused. I'm accomplishing more than I would without.
I'm struggling to figure out how to write the novel. The words have become a quagmire. Maybe the keyboard approach won't work. I need the writing process established in morning pages over the years: pen skimming across the page, eluding the weight of thoughts. Can I entrust the novel to that process, letting it flow out of nowhere, somewhere, deep within? Not fussing over details? Mostly I need to stop thinking and keep writing.
This evening during my volunteer shift at OOTS I read the penultimate chapter of Heaven's Coast, by Mark Doty. It is all right to take time with this deep, beautifully written book. He describes Darren, the nurse who looks after Wally and ends up living with them during the final months:
Even now, writing this, I'm helped by thinking of his practicality, his wise focus on what-do-we-do-next. Whereas my tendency is to spin off into some airy interiority, to focus on grief and upon spirit, he brings me back to the plain facts of cleaning up, the daily work of making teings better, cleaner, brighter. We're sustained by the daily, held in the world, and because people who do the work Darren does are accustomed to being with the dying, they're used to staying in the present, seeing what there is to be done now.
Staying present is my motto, and yet so hard to stick to. It's what I need to face emotion, lack of emotion, depression, whatever comes, remaining buoyant on the sea of confusion to follow my stars wherever they lead.
Later, Mark quotes a letter from his friend Margie, who visited them a few days before Wally died:
January is sometimes a hard month for me, the month I was born in. Usually the complaint is that things don't move. This winter I have just given up, and it's much richer, much more enjoyable that way. Sitting in the bedroom with you and Wally felt like the heart of my January. Nothing moving fast, but everything moving. Time and room for my heart to really open there on the bed.
I've given up before, but that terrifies me. I don't know how to do it without admitting defeat and becoming helpless. I would prefer to follow Derek than Margie, stay somehow present with what needs to be done, without denying how I feel. This game isn't easy to play. If I can ever learn it, now would be a good time.
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Date: 2006-09-20 02:47 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-09-20 04:03 am (UTC)*self-centered introspective note* This has changed for me. Writing has expanded to be research, reading, thinking, organizing, (even, to a degree, cleaning, eating, sleeping)... *laughs* You get the point. Something is the core of me. Everything else I do contributes to it.
I am deeply engrossed in all the stages of my writing, from the final words to the first little notes. I can't imagine separating it into one thing like putting down words now. Maybe it's my way of coping with anxiety about the final product? I don't know or care right now, because it feels good to be doing what I'm doing, when I'm 'writing'.
That said, I'm a little worried about how fall/winter will influence me, but time will tell. I do feel joy about fall. I love to stock up. I love the view that it's both dying and beginning. My new year falls around Samhain now. I'm a little enthusiastic about it, really. I'm more aware and awake than I've ever been. I'm hoping I will find good things awaiting me in the change of pace instead of falling down the rabbit hole again.
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Date: 2006-09-20 01:05 pm (UTC)Would you find it beneficial to write together somewhere once in a while? I've never had an apportunity to do that with a friend, but think it might be fun to try.
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Date: 2006-09-20 01:11 pm (UTC)Hmm. I think I see your problem more clearly now. Yes, I can very much relate to that, too. Immersion might be good, then. I certainly do get connected to things during NNWM. :)
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Date: 2006-09-20 02:03 pm (UTC)Weekdays would work wonderfully for me. I can do weekends sometimes, too, but weekdays are better for now. As for where to meet, that's probably a more sensitive issue for you than me. I can write practically anywhere, as crowds and noise don't bother me. My usual places would be The Book Shelf coffee shop or Cornerstone, but it occurs to me that Timothy's might be pretty quiet at certain times of day, and now that I have a car it's just as convenient as downtown. I don't mind doing some scouting to find a time and place that isn't busy, if I know what's suitable for you.
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Date: 2006-09-20 02:07 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-09-20 02:45 pm (UTC)I'd also be happy to try out the UC. It has been years since I've spent time there, but it would be a great place to work because my story takes place largely at a fictitious univeristy based on U of G.
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Date: 2006-09-20 07:36 pm (UTC)I think I can manage that. I'll let you know if anything changes. I'm writing that into my calendar right now!
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Date: 2006-09-20 10:28 am (UTC)I think it's all about balance in order to not getting overwhelmed by stuff and emotions.
hugs to you Van
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Date: 2006-09-20 01:28 pm (UTC)Mia, thank you for the encouragement. I feel less at odds with my routine this morning. And when I consider how far I've come in just a year (especially the volunteer work, which I feel quite capable to continue, despite my mood), I see good ground for optimism.
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Date: 2006-09-20 11:17 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2006-09-20 01:29 pm (UTC)As to your schedule (which I love, by the way) it's pretty tight. I would find it hard to stay that disciplined, and then things have a way of popping up in places and times for which we did not schedule them. Maybe you need to add a floating block of time for surprises or for curling up in bed on a gray day and letting yourself feel a little lazy and unhappy for a bit, or for catch-up on a good week.
Your stuckness with writing reminded me of something I read about scheduling writing each day. That as long as you sit there, in front of your computer or paper during that allotted time, it counts. Eventually sitting there, doing nothing else, will get so boring that you'll write because it's something to do. I know that's not what you're seeking in terms of the novel, but it might be something to push you through a stuck time.
Very wordy of me. Sorry. Also, if I followed even a tiny bit of my own advice I'd be much better off. :)
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Date: 2006-09-20 01:45 pm (UTC)Your advice about the writing is helpful, too. I'm dealing with that restlessness and boredom right now, but I need to stick with it.
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Date: 2006-09-20 02:08 pm (UTC)I, too, have this disease. *g*