Settling

[vaneramos]

When one close relationship gives me grief, I run short of energy to interact with other people. So I tend to withdraw. It would be easy to identify all the ways this isolation is unhealthy, but that would be a waste of words. Solitude has always been my closest companion, and that's not about to change. Having Danny here makes a terrific difference because I seldom go more than a couple hours without direct human contact. Whatever the reason, this period of withdrawal has passed without the usual downward spiral. I made it through an entire work day without brooding about the recent unpleasantness. I'm here now. I acknowledge what has happened and want to move on.

Hello.

Cooking for someone besides myself is far more rewarding (I recommend kung pao chicken). Most evenings we eat dinner together at the table with candles. This is simply wonderful.

Comments

Hey Cousin

[(Anonymous)]

Hi Cousin, what's up? I know it has been forever since we have seen each other or talked but you are my family and I am always here for you. I too have been through hell and back in the past 18 months but it has all been a learning experience. one which I would never trade for it has shown me who I truly am. Going within is fine for a time but I know you are loved so retreat for a bit but not too long ok, the world needs you. Love Tammy

[bitterlawngnome.livejournal.com]

is it still the same two people?

[vaneramos.livejournal.com]

Family, yes. Last week they were giving M grief, too, which made me furious.

[changeling72.livejournal.com]

It sounds like real progress.

[vaneramos.livejournal.com]

Thanks, I hope so.

yummy

[(Anonymous)]

recipe sounds yummmy - looking foward to trying it.
Hope all is well. Have a happy thanksgiving weekend.
hugs.
Christopher

[corridor7f.livejournal.com]

I am happy to hear you seem to have found a balance.

I seem to need to withdraw totally - and the presence of someone living with me, as much as I care for them, would be an annoyance, I fear.

[vaneramos.livejournal.com]

So much depends on the person. My partner doesn't take it personally when I need space or ask him to stop talking. So that minimizes the annoyance. But I can relate to your fear. If you can have a room of your own it might be enough. We each have one in our new home but haven't needed to use them so far, at least not to get away from each other.