My therapist, on spending

[vaneramos]

I said, "Money burns a hole in my pocket."

My therapist said, "You are being too hard on yourself." I keep painting myself according to an old image of the way I used to be. I am not that same person anymore, she pointed out. I have become far more conscientious about my spending habits. When I go over budget, I'm not being extravagant. These are small infractions. It is normal behaviour for people to want to treat themselve in small ways. I need to allow for that, she said.

Nevertheless, the budget is important. There are different ways of doing things, she reminded me. I need to concentrate on finding less expensive methods, rather than berating myself over small mishaps.

She talked for quite a few minutes, actually. She has never given such a long lecture before. I enjoyed it.

Whenever I spend money, I feel under a cloud, worrying, afraid of myself, afraid of ruining my life. People tend to do this: focus on their screw-ups, rather than figure out how to make things better. It's like religion.

Comments

[blt4success66.livejournal.com]

Wow, considering my current situation, I needed this to remind me that I need toe exercise discipline and then also not be so hard on myself regarding our financial mess - we got into this together.

[bitterlawngnome.livejournal.com]

you're not spendthrift. you're not going into debt to dump money down a slot machine, buying massive entertainment systems on credit, or robbing your grandma to buy meth. try putting it in that perspective... cause that's what she sees most likely on a daily basis.

[apel.livejournal.com]

I liked T Thorn Coyle's recent blog post about noticing what's working in our lives. She's religious (Pagan) but her examples are often about weight lifting and money.

[vaneramos.livejournal.com]

What a timely article! I blogged about it. Thank you.